4 Things Men Do That Turn Of Woman Off In Bed
Are you to blame for her lack of lust?
We asked several séx experts to shed light on the worst things you do around the house and in béd that turn her off. Vow to never commit the following mood-killers again and your séx life will suffer no more.
1. Ignoring Her Appearance
Guys in long-term relationships tend to stop noticing when their partner looks pretty, and so much of female séxual desire is tied to a sense of self-esteemThe fix here is simple: Pay her a few simple compliments every day, like letting her know she’s séxy.
2. Putting Her Under Pressure
Don’t worry or question her about getting orgasms. Stay relaxed and focused on playful touching. This means no performance pressure on either of you. Let whatever happens happen in its own time—or not. Good séx is about connection and sensual satisfaction, not number of orgasms produced. And here’s a nice added benefit to staying calm: The relaxation is good for erections.
3. Using Porn As a Benchmark
It’s good to keep the séx hot—but it’s more important to keep it real. In other words, forget that cool move you caught on XTube. Just because you saw a séxual practice in a film doesn’t mean it’s safe or satisfying. And it might not even be something she’s into. If you need extreme stimulation to perform with a partner, you may want to cut back on overstimulation. A desensitized brain can also find séx less arousing. As you restore your brain to normal sensitivity, regular séx behaviors become enjoyable again. Time to rediscover the wonders of the missionary position.
4. Leaving Her Lips Hanging
As men get comfortable in a relationship, their approach to foreplay tends to focus on the moments leading up to séx. But female desire doesn’t operate like a light switch that turns on and off—it’s more like a dimmer. Small acts of intimacy like hugging and kissing can get her in the mood. But don’t get antsy: Don’t expect her to be immediately turned on.